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Are you pregnant with your second (or third) baby and thinking about them sharing a room with an older sibling? Maybe you have one child and you’re thinking about having another? I want to share some of my positive experiences and tips I wish I had when we started this adventure of my twins and toddler sharing a room!
During my twin pregnancy, we had a choice, either we could buy a larger home or all 3 of our girls could share a room. We decided it was best for our three babies to share a room, and it’s been a great choice for us! I’d like to share some tips to help make the transition easier if you’re thinking about room sharing with your littles!
But first, let’s talk about WHY room sharing has been amazing for our family and could be for yours too!
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- Room sharing helps increase that sisterly bond! Room sharing has helped my toddler really bond with her younger sisters because they keep her company at night. Belle has been scared of every little thing lately and sharing a room with her sisters has helped decrease that fear. Even though the babies are asleep by the time Belle goes to bed she still talks to them. I think it’s wonderful that they have each other to talk to at night before bed, and just knowing someone else is with you is comforting! Every morning when I get Belle up she asks to check on her sisters in their crib. It’s very sweet.
- Less tidying up at bedtime. When your babies and toddler share a room most of the kid/baby messes are confined to their room instead of spread across 2 or 3 bedrooms!! It makes tidying up so much easier!! It only takes minutes to tidy up all their room before bedtime! I LOVE IT!
- It promotes decluttering. Clutter has always been one thing that causes me stress! One of my favorite things about living in a smaller home is that you can’t have clutter!! You must decide what items are most important and keep those out. A clutter free home makes my heart happy!
- Fewer toys out. We have started to cycle through the girl’s toys by storing a large box in our storage facility and alternating what toys are out on a weekly/monthly basis. This gives the girls the opportunity to actually play with ALL the toys and it gives me a chance to clean them!!
Now, How to make room sharing a success for your littles!
- Sleep train your toddler. This is the most important tip!! Before even considering room sharing with an infant and toddler the toddler needs to have a consistent bedtime and a general wake up time. This is necessary so you can space out their bedtimes and wake times. I have the best luck when I space it about an hour between the babies going to sleep (used to be 5:30, we’re now pushing back to 7!) and our toddler going to sleep (7:30 or 8). Sleep is very important in our house and I think all 3 littles deserve a quiet sleep environment to fall asleep.
- Teach toddler an appropriate wake time! If you have an early riser, like I do, this is an amazing way to teach your toddler an appropriate wake time! Such as 6:30 am instead of 5 AM! The light stays red through the night and turns GREEN when it’s ok to get out of bed! For this to be effective with your toddler you must be consistent with getting them out of bed at green so they learn this is the appropriate time to get up! This is a highly effective took and It works wonders!
- Make their room fun. Before transitioning your babies to their new room pair their new room with fun things!! Take them in the room and play, give them time to get used to their crib. Maybe start naps in the cribs so they begin to understand this is where they sleep, too! Make their room a comfortable place for them and a common area to play and relax!
- Blackout curtains. These are important for keeping those littles sleeping past 5 AM. Blackout curtains have helped my girls nap longer and sleeping later. We use them in our bedroom too, because a dark sleep environment is great for everyone!
- Sound machines. When your littles sharing a room there must be sound machines to block out the night time cries! There are few things worse than a fussy baby waking her sisters. One fussy baby is enough! We use 2 sound machines in the room, one between the twins cribs and one near the door to block outside noise. The HoMedics sound machine has been a life-saver!!
- Baby crying. I was sooo concerned that one baby would start crying and instantly wake the other two. I have been pleasantly surprised how much noise these girls can sleep through, thanks, sound machines. Our daughter PK does not just cry she screams, the most ear-piercing scream and somehow the other girls sleep through. I Wish I could! I feel like room sharing has made all my girls better sleepers! But when one of the babies wakes in the night and just isn’t going back down we use Hyland’s calming tablets. I didn’t hear about them until the twins were 6 months and MAN would they have been nice to have with my first born!! They are truly AMAZING!! This is the little secret I tell ALL new moms about!
- Naps. This is the only exception to room sharing. We set up a pack n play in our room and one girl will nap in there regularly. I’ve read that naps are a much lighter sleep, which explains why one baby does typically wake the others during naps. If all naps sync up I have the two best sleepers in their crib and the fussiest/loudest girl in the pack n play. Surprisingly, it’s not the same girl every time, different day different struggle.
It has been a very positive experience for us, with just a few hiccups along the way. To avoid the hiccups make sure your babies are ready to sleep in their cribs. We transitioned our girls around 5 months and it was a little rough at first but after a few nights, they got comfortable and have slept in their cribs since then.
Now that the twins are 9 months old, upgrading to a larger home has been on my mind a LOT lately, but I just can’t do it. I feel like this cozy little home is perfect for this stage in our lives, and more room would only mean further to chase the babies! So I think we’ll stay put and enjoy being cozy together!
Share your experience with room sharing or why you decided not to room share!!